How desire, arousal and sex are used for control and service in Dominance/submission — BDSM and sexual desire BDSM is not always sexual but, for most of its practitioners, is an essential part of their sexuality. For sexual masochists, spankings, bondage and different forms of erotic pain are a big turn-on. Sometimes they are even required for them to get aroused. Likewise, inflicting pain elicits sexual arousal in…